Dating my boyfriend for 8 years

08-May-2016 10:05

How much time does it take to determine if he or she is “the one”? I know of people who have gotten married very quickly (like in a matter of days) and are still married decades later—and people who did the same thing and were divorced just as quickly.I have no regrets about not having been married sooner.

Brides purchase a dress, and then a different one a year later, and then a third a few months before the actual wedding. It continues to work for both of us: we'd been together over ten years before we had a child (although half of that was not by choice). We're both pretty fiercely independent, and clearly, moving slowly has worked well for us as a couple.You put a deposit down on a caterer, and they go out of business the next year. At this point, we've been married as long as we were unmarried — Dre's and my 2004 wedding marks the half-way point of our relationship.It’s a question that comes up occasionally within a singles ministry.If you are seriously dating someone, how long should it be before you pop the question?You can run into unique challenges if you have an engagement that stretches many years. I've definitely seen times when a four-month engagement has been easier on couples than a four-year engagement.

Brides purchase a dress, and then a different one a year later, and then a third a few months before the actual wedding. It continues to work for both of us: we'd been together over ten years before we had a child (although half of that was not by choice). We're both pretty fiercely independent, and clearly, moving slowly has worked well for us as a couple.

You put a deposit down on a caterer, and they go out of business the next year. At this point, we've been married as long as we were unmarried — Dre's and my 2004 wedding marks the half-way point of our relationship.

It’s a question that comes up occasionally within a singles ministry.

If you are seriously dating someone, how long should it be before you pop the question?

You can run into unique challenges if you have an engagement that stretches many years. I've definitely seen times when a four-month engagement has been easier on couples than a four-year engagement.

I've seen it too many times to count on the Offbeat Bride Tribe: if the engagement is longer than three years, plans shift so many times en route to the wedding date that you might as well be getting a four-year bachelor's degree in Wedding Planning Purgatory And Hellish Studies. Sometimes the challenges aren't based on how long you've been together — but how long you're planning the wedding. I'm going to go with no, we didn't wait too long — the slow-moving timeline we were on worked for both of us.